Procedure of Nikkah
Nikkah is an Islamic contract which is a sunnah of the Prophet(P.B.U.H) as well because it is done following the procedure told by our beloved Prophet.
Aijab or Proposal
One party should send proposal to the other party so that the consent of the both the parties may be known.
Qabool or Acceptance
The other party by his or her free will accepts the proposal in order to show his/her consent.
The wali should also be convinced for this marriage because if for any non Islamic reason the wali is not ready for the marriage then both the parties are free to get married.
A place for Nikkah
Then a date and place( preferably mosque) should be fixed for Nikkah. Getting married in a mosque is Sunnah. Both the parties should be present at the place of Nikkah. If it is a mosque and a girl could not go there then wali and witnesses will go to girl for her permission.
Witnesses and Imam
In Islam, two male witnesses for each side are necessary but it is not necessary that Nikkah will be conducted in the presence of any Imam. The wali and 2 male witnesses are enough.
It is not compulsory to have a marriage contract in writing but it was only a security of the girl so that no one can defraud her on the name of Nikkah.
Mahar or Nuptial Gift
Then the mahar should be decided amongst the parties. It should be according to the will of the girl or the pocket of the man. Mahar can be in money or property which should be given into the possession of the girl.
Then the imam(if any) or the wali will first ask the girl that this man son of ………….. with the fix amount of………….. mahar want to marry you. Are you agree?
This question should be asked thrice and girl should reply in yes for three times. Saying yes is not important if she nodes her head in acceptance then it is necessary as well. The Nikkah is solemnized from the side of the girl. But if the girl rejects the proposal then no one can force her to do the Nikkah.
Then the same question will be asked to man and if he agrees too then the Nikkah is solemnized. The girl and boy are now husband and wife.
Then the couple will decide the date of Walima or if it is decided already then they will celebrate Walima and gather all their family members and friends. Walima is a Sunnah of our Holy Prophet(p.b.u.h). This is the end of wedding.
Henna Ceremony in Islam
There is no concept of henna night in Islam. It is actually a hindu tradition which has prevailed its roots in the Asian culture. There are only two functions Nikkah and Walima.
The Nikkah and Walima ceremony can be of any sort which is according to the pocket of the parties.
Dowery in Islam
It is not permissible to take anything from the family of the bride. Nikkah should be made easy for both the parties and their families. It is a sin to make unnecessary demands which can delay Nikkah.
Anas b. Malik (Allah be pleased with him) reported: Allah’s Messenger ( صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم ) gave no better wedding feast than the one he did (on the occasion of his marriage with) Zainab. Thabit al-Bunani (one of the narrators) said: What did he serve in the wedding feast? He (Anas) said: He fed them bread and meat (so lavishly) that they (the guests) abandoned it (of their own accord after having taken them to their hearts’ content). Sahih muslim book of nikkah hadith no 3504
Qualities of a spouse
Following are the qualities of a spouse which are derived from the hadith of our Holy Prophet (p.b.u.h) to live a happy and healthy life. One should ask the relatives and friends to know about these qualities
A man should be
• God fearing
• Practicing obligations of Islam
• Generous because its not easy to live with a miser
• Tolerant. If he is not tolerant and abuses the wife and her family then life will become miserable
• Trust worthy
• Secretive so he does not reveal the secrets of his household with his friends
• Hard working. If he is lazy and not responsible then it will noy be easy to live the life with him.
• Respectful towards woman
• Good character
• Good conduct
• Just and fair
• Jealous man so he can protect her woman
Characteristics of a woman
• God fearing
• Performing obligations of Islam
• Contented because uncontended woman can make life miserable
• Wadood(loving and caring) ask her relatives and friends about this.
• Walood (fertile). Look for her family that if there are more fertile woman then she will most likely be fertile
• Can take care of the children
• Not jealous
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