In Islam, utmost importance is given to the relationship of kinship and other relations. Islam emphasis on good and healthy relations between husband, wife, parents, children, sisters, brothers, uncles and aunts etc. Islam is a full code of life and knows the importance of happy life. To break the relations of kinship is a major sin in Islam. No matter how bad is the relation but no one is allowed to cut the ties of relations. It is recommended to avoid those who does bad but do not break the ties.
Kinship normally means the blood relations of a person mother, father, sister, brothers, uncles, aunts and their children. Different words are used in Quran to show who kins are.
The word Riham is used for siblings or uterine sisters and brother.
Word Asabiyah is used for relatives of Father and mother. It also means ancestors.
These are the relatives who have got this status biologically by the way of marriage, adoption, inheritance or succession.
Right of relatives
- It is a right of the relatives that silah-e-rehmi should be done with them.
- Give them their Islamic rights.
- Visit them often.
- Help them when they are in need.
- If they visit you, greet them with happiness.
- Show hospitality.
- Consider them first while giving Sadqa and Zakat.
- Share their happiness and sorrows.
Silah-e-rehmi means to show respect, empathy, sympathy, and love towards the relatives and to give them the rights which are mentioned in Quran.
Categories of relatives
The relatives are divided into three main categories.
- Mehrams or those who fall in the prohibited degree.
- Those who fall in the category of inheritance
- Close relatives
Benefits of holding ties of kinship
- This action will lead one to Jannah.
- Allah will be pleased with him.
- Allah will grant him with wealth.
- Good relation with family can lead one towards good relation with Allah.
Narrated Abu Huraira: The Prophet said, The word ‘Ar-Rahm (womb) derives its name from Ar-Rahman (i.e., one of the names of Allah) and Allah said: ‘I will keep good relation with the one who will keep good relation with you, (womb i.e. Kith and Kin) and sever the relation with him who will sever the relation with you, (womb, i.e. Kith and Kin). Sahih Bukhari book of good manners Hadith 5988
- It increases life span and prosperity.
Three most important commandments of Allah
In the verse 90 of surah Nahal, it is commanded that giving to your relatives is necessary. It means to have good relation with the relatives and to give them from the blessings from Allah.
Verily, Allah commands justice, the doing of good and giving to kith and kin .
Punishment of breaking ties of kinship
- If one breaks the ties of kinship, he is answerable to Allah.
- It is a loss to oneself who break those ties.
Those who break, Allah’s covenant after it is ratified, and who cut asunder what Allah has ordered to be joined, and do mischief on earth; these cause loss to themselves. Surah al Bakarah verse:27)
- Allah curses those who do this.
Then, believe ye are, if ye hold authority, that ye make mischief in the land and break the ties of relationship? Such are the men whom Allah has cursed, for He has made them deaf and blinded their sight. (surah Muhammad verse 22 -23)
- His final destination is Hell fire.
And those who break the covenant of Allah after having plighted their word thereto, and cut asunder those things which Allah has commanded to be joined, and work mischief in the land, on them is the curse, and for them is the terrible home. Surah al Raad verse:25
- Their hearts are sealed by Allah.
- One who is responsible to break the ties between two persons is also punishable by Allah.
If parents ask to sever kinship
If parents ask the children to sever the ties of kinship, then child should not obey the parents as obedience only belongs to Allah. If a commandment of parents is against the commandment of Allah, then one should not fulfill it.
If parents want the children to divorce their spouse (wife or husband) then they are also not justified to divorce the spouses. If the spouses are doing immoral acts or acts against Islam, then it is obligatory to divorce them but only to satisfy the demands of parents and to support their ego and anger, it is not right to break the ties with spouse. The punishment of breaking ties will be given to them by Allah.
Verses about kinship in Quran
And fear Allah, through Whom you demand your mutual (rights), and (reverence) the (relations of) wombs (that bore you); for surely Allah ever watches over you.Surah Al Nissa verse.1
The importance of ties of kinship is shown by the given below two verses of Quran in which it is mentioned that to do silah-e-rehmi is important next to the obedience to Allah. To respect those relatives and to do well with them is recommended after obedience of Allah but these verses do not mean to obey those relatives.
- O’ Prophet), tell them that whatever (wealth) ye spend, it is (primarily) for the parents and relatives. surah al Bakarah verse 215
- And remember We took a covenant from the Children of Israel that worship none but Allah, and do good to your parents and relatives .Surah al Bakarah verse 83
Hadith about kinship
- Narrated Abu Sufyan: That Heraclitus sent for him and said, What did he, i.e. the Prophet order you? I replied, He orders us to offer prayers; to give alms; to be chaste; and to keep good relations with our relatives. sahih Bukhari book of good manners Hadith 5980
- Narrated Jubair bin Mut`im: That he heard the Prophet saying, The person who severs the bond of kinship will not enter Paradise. Sahih Bukhari book of good manners Hadith 5984
- Narrated Abu Huraira: I heard Allah’s Apostle saying, Whoever is pleased that he be granted more wealth and that his lease of life be pro longed, then he should keep good relations with his Kith and kin. Sahih bukhari book of good manners Hadith 5985
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